8 months ago she decided she didn’t want to be married anymore(together for 8yrs, married for 3.5, 2 kids-10yrs and 3). This happened one month after she opened her own beauty salon inside a gym, she fell in with a new crowd of friends who are all single or seperated and probably had new guys hitting on her. I have pleaded for 7 months, she has just moved on and going out ALL the time, i am living in my parents house, solicitors letters will be signed this week for seperation, she is going to pay all the bills and the mortgage payments, but she is in for a real big awakening when the bills hit……hopefully through time she will realise what she has thrown away and genuinly want me back! I have always treated her like a queen never cheated or anything like that….she is just taking everthing from me, my house, my home,everthing that is in the house, being a family with her and my kids. There are loads of other details, just wondered if ex wives realise what they had after they get to run around on thier own for a while, then come back?
True, but i have stopped running around after her and told her i won’t do it anymore. Once she starts paying the bills herself(i have always payed them all) she won’t have any free cash to run around with….she gets £650 a month tax credits,£300 maint from me(starting next month)the out goings on the house come to £1300, she also has her new business to sort out too, could it be a reality check for her? She also forgets that she has two kids, even on the nights she has the kids she gets any baby sitter she can find so she can get out with her buddies, no quality time with kids. Just wish something would scare her and bring her back down to earth.
Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
Don’t be concerned about your wife. Concern yourself with your kids and having an amicable divorce. By amicable, I mean accept the divorce, your wife’s new life, and put your energies into remaking your life to this new set of circumstances. It sounds to me like your wife has just discovered that men find her very attractive. That doesn’t at all mean success in relationships – it means she is enjoying the attention. What you think was ‘treating her like a queen’ did not cover everything – you may have done things for her but she craves attention. Once you are divorced, start dating a lot! You sound like a good guy and you will probably find another relationship very quickly. By the time your wife has been disappointed (maybe, maybe not!) by other men, you will have a different perspective on her and yourself, too.
Don’t put anything on ‘hold’ , don’t wait and hope. Just proceed, finding your own way in the dating scene. Be a great dad for the sake of your kids, not your wife. If and when she starts playing games with your feelings, you’ll be better able to see that and handle it.
Why would she realize that? She’s having the time of her life….And you’re adding more fertilizer to the grass by giving her e/thing she requests.