One of my sons was violently attacked last yr on his way home from school,, he was beaten and set alight with deodorant and a lighter, It has taken over 15mths to reach court and the 4 witness’es seem to have been intimidated by iether the defendant or the defendants solicitor, and claim not to recall any thing they’d seen,, the defendant is considerably larger than my son and stood opposite my husband (outside the courts) eye balling him and looking like he wanted to fight, he also crept up behind my sons while we waited to be called in to the court room,,,,, after half a day of this sickening crap,where the witness’es coincidently forgot every thing, we stormed out of the court, (no verdict as yet), today the arresting officer called me to say the defendant was found guilty with out resonable doubt Of "COMMON ASSULT", GOOD FOR US,, ,
The problem i have now is this,,,,,,,,,,,, this seemingly irrate young man lives very close to us, and now has had a good look at my sons faces,,, im told the worst he’ll get is community service,, and there is no protection for my son(s) unless this boy decides to do anything again,,, HOW do i stop my husband from going to this boys house to break something (god knows what)?
thank you ,,,,,,,, YOU MESSAGES ARE SWEET AND KIND, AND THEY MEAN ALOT TO A FRUSTRATED FAMILY,,,,, THIS IS A SERIOUS MATTER AND I APPRECIATE LEGITIMATE HEART FELT RESPONSES
Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
I am so very sorry this happened to your son and the court case which seems to prolong the agony. Honestly, if it were me, I would want to choke (or worse) those kids myself. I don’t know you, but feel that I want to hug your child for having to go through this…..it is so sickening.
Get a protective order against this kid — legally set. Keep your son close for his protection. Talk to your husband and tell him how his anger (understandable, though) could put the focus on him versus your son’s protection.
Take care and keep your son very close to you. That other kid will eventually mature.
Take care.
Deal with it outside the court system. It’s the only way to get real justice.
There isnt much you can do to be honest, thats the problem with todays legal system, the criminal’s rights are put before the victims.
Call the police when your husband leaves to go to that house.
It is the best thing you could do, If it goes to far someone else will call them and he could get a very long sentence
Good Luck
Honestly, if it was my son and he was so damaged I think I would put a bullet in this abusers head. To hell with the courts. There is too much abuse cos everyone is so soft protecting for some ridiculous thing or other. Thats why absue will never stop cos the goody goodys are protecting evil. Your son’s abuser will pay heavily one day. Everything goes round in a circle.
If I was your husband I would got over there and break some thing too. It would be my bat as it hit his head.
He has planned to break in already?! Yeesh!
Maybe you should visit the police station and ask them to offer protection to your son(s) and/or tell them to keep an eye on the suspect.
TELL HIM NO!!!!!!!! If your hubby goes and does anything it will make it worse for your son. You got him found guilty if all he gets is community service he is still on a probation like punishment. He gets arrested again and the charges could be back on him and he can get the max sentence. You hubby needs to let this man dig his own grave, (i have dealt with these kinds of people in buffalo ny,) He will more then likely still bother your son and your family. He may drive by call anything. Yous need to stay calm and keep calling the cops every time he does do something they will get sick of it after a while and he will get charged worse the next time. My advise beside telling your hubby to leave the man alone and let him dig his own grave is to take extra caution. Make sure you lock your house up good,. if you can get video surveillance onyour cars that will be good. and start a log book date with full detail anytime anything happens hang up calls, threating calls, his driving by, anything. It might also be good to talk to the cops and make sure an OP is put out for your son. (order of protection wich will make it so the guy can not contact your son in any way email, text, calling, also distance can be put on to make sure he cant drive pass your house (even if he lives 3 blocks and its his normal route they will make him find another way) gl
by telling your husband the liable consequences if he takes the law in his own hands .what the boy did to your son was not right but he will get his sentence and you have to abide by that.up to now you don`t know for certain that this boy is planning to do anything to your sons.until he does something there is nothing you can do.i`m sure if he gets community service he would also maybe have a sentence on probation which in it`s self might be a deterrent to do anything.the other option open to you is you can get a restraining order against this boy that he must so much distance between him and your sons.but you must your husband strongly advice not to take the law into his own hands.years ago a youth stabbed my cousin with a knife and like your case the witnesses had suddenly not seen a thing and he got off scott free.that night he was in the pub boasting about it,my uncle happened to be in the same pub.to put a long story short he took the law into his own hands and had a fight with him.the boy got friends as wittiness to say that my uncle had started the fight.when it got to court the judge was against people taking the law into their own hands no matter what the provocation and my uncle had to go to jail for 6 months.so the person who recommended that you take the law into your own hands i would try to ignore.maybe consider getting some counseling for your son. i know it`s not so easy but you must try to keep together as a family and try to forget about the insident and move on to the next thing in your life.i wish you all luck.