Jul
06
I have to get cross examined in a few days for a domestic violence hearing against my ex, i got the dvo out against him. Im really worried cause i freeze up when im nervous. I even kept freezing up in from of my solicitor and i couldnt remember things that had happened and when i do i just sit there and think in my head that im i cant remember. I admit im not consistant because im so bloody nervous but if they were people i know im fine and its going to be even harder with my ex there. He is only doing it to make a fool of me. Is there any tips or anything anyone can give me? Thanks
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You’re in a hard spot, because you have to prove to the court that you are in fact in danger from him, in order to continue the order of protection, and his lawyer is most likely going to do everything possible to trip you up, and make you look like a blithering idiot.
Keep you cool, if it helps, sit down with your attorney and write out a timeline of the events as they happened, and don’t forget to include his attitude during the ordeal, if he was angry, say so, if he was calm, cool, and collected, say so.
Best of luck to you. I’ve been in your shoes, and it’s not an easy spot to be in.
I am a former attorney. Remember that you do not have to answer the questions at the speed they are asked. Take your time, if you need to restate the question. Only answer what is asked, do not add more detail. Your solicitor will give you time to fill in the detail. Stick to the facts. If you did not understand a question say so. Good luck. Be proud of yourself for sticking up to an abuser.
Have your attorney go through possible questions with you. Go through what you wrote out when you got the order and try to remember the incidents as much as you can. Play it back over in your mind. You’re the one who’s right. There is no reason to be nervous if you’re telling the truth. Your major concern is to just tell it like it is.
Lawyers aren’t as scary as they seem to be, and if they’re tough or seem like it, they’re just doing their job. You never know, that attorney who’s cross examining you might really believe you’re right even though they’re defending the ex.