ok well my ex husband up & left me went overseas then called me told me f off loved another woman & that he didnt want nothing to do with his son as his new girl didnt want him to have anything to do with me or our son etc well that was 3 years ago . …i went to legal aid sbout 3 months ago (as i remarried & my husband wants my son take his name as we have 2 children together & he doesnt want my son to feel that he doesnt love him equal as my son only knows him as his dad meaning he wants to adopt him but i need to get full custody anyway as for things that needs father consent passport etc.. anyway i rang legal aid they told me i need to get full custody i explained to them that i cant as i dont know where he is… they then told me to send a letter to his sister who lives 30minutes from me (i only had her address as 3 years ago i deleted her number and all asi just wanted to forget my ex ) so i sent the letter saying could she get my ex to sign a stat declaration stating he gives me full custody etc.. well its been nearly 2 months & i havent recieved anything i know she still lives her at her address as i drove past to see ,, now my husband is telling me to go over there (to my exs sister house) & give her the stat declaration & tell her again to give to him so when we go back to legal aid we can say we told his sister by letter & face to face that i want full custody as my ex hasnt contacted or seen his son in 3 years & no reply & it could help us .. im lost at what to do me & my exs sister didnt leave on bad terms she is quiet nice (she was upset about the whole situation at the time ) i havent spoken or seen her in 3 years & i just dont want to bother her i know my ex has a different life now with his new wife maybe kids (as his friends that live here told me ages ago ) .. & i dont want to cause any dramas but im lost at what to do i need this paper this is my sons life … should i bite the bullet &go over there but what do you say after not seeing someone for 3 years & if she talks about my ex i could get emotional not that i love him anymore but he hurt me real bad (as when he left me all i wanted was answers .. what does everyone think i should do & if i do go any ideas on what to say etc.. .. thanks for everyones input
Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
Wow! That was a long story… lol!
By u giving her the letter ur acting as a sheriff… she can say latter on that she did not received it… ETC.
My advice would b go talk 2 her face to face because like it or not she is still ur son’s aunt… AND 3 years it’s a long time already so she would understand that u r doing this 4 ur son’s benefit (even though she might not like the idea of changing his last name) but as a woman she MIGHT UNDERSTAND u!!! And it’s obvious her brother doesn’t pay child support when u don’t even know about him.
You should be able to see a solicitor for free for up to an hour. He should also be able to explain Legal Aid.
Jesus! You are a beautiful, attractive woman.