I left my husband after months of emotional abuse which i didnt realise and i had found out he had lied to me into getting married. whilst dating he showed me every good side of him bery rarely fighting except when he became upset when he couldnt contact me amongst other insecure things ie calling me or messaging me every 10 mins (no exhaguration i have checked the phone bills). he told me he had a contract to move to Dubai however we would need to be married to live there. So after him moving me away and lots of twoing and frowing the contract arrived so we quickly organised a wedding. Once we were married he confessed that he had moved me, and lied to me to get me to marry him, the contract had never existed however he wanted to test if i loved him? I couldnt trust him after this and our relationship went from horribly verbally and financially abusive him taking all money out of our account the day before all payments had to come out, where i would have to draw on my credit, then he would make up for the next couple of days or weeks. this went on with him seeing a pshychologist and became more and more volatile eventually i had to leave after he became physically abusive. I have established my life elsewhere having to move back home with my mum and dad for emotional and financial support however he during our relationship he put all bills in my name and has no left me with thousands of dollars of debt and I have found out he had had an abusive history. I want to move on with my life however i have this huge debt im trying to pay off which he has walked away from about 90k. I went to see a solicitor and they have told me it will cost more and take years to settle as there are no physicall assets.His solicitor has sent letters agreeing to pay his phone bill only. How can i get him to pay for his debts without it costing me money i dont have. He earns 150k pa and myself 40k pa he has no debts in his name and had walked away and has no remorse in his words ‘i left so its my problem’ i need to know who to call and what he should have to pay, My current solicitor thinks i should be lucky to be alive and just put my head down and pay the debt off, however it just doesnt feel right that he did this and gets to do what he wants and i will have to spend the next 4 years paying of this debt.
I would appreciate any advice.
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this is terrible and i am sorry this happened to you. sounds as if his intentions were to trap you and ruin you financially so that his finances remained intact. the first answer was great, unless you already divorced, then it would be too late for that. i do not necessarily agree that you should hold the responsibility and just put your head down as you were advised… if you have all your documentation proving these were joint purchases while you were living together you can sue him. hire an attorney who will specialize in family law, not debt consolidation. see about possibly filing bankruptsy. i am not familiar with your laws, but find someone who is and be aggressive. the debt is not going anywhere, so do your research. congratulations for having the courage to walk away. your finances can be mended… and you can rebuild your life free from abuse. best of luck to you.
You should get the marriage annulled (different from divorce because it means the marriage was a fraud and never really legal because your husband lied). If it’s annulled, you won’t have to pay any of his debt; only your own. His debts are only his. Get a different lawyer and tell him/her this story. I do think there is something that can be done. You were "conned." Call the police and see if what he did was illegal. It seems it was. They could put an arrest warrant out for him and keep him from doing this to another unsuspecting person.