Is it because men that they deem suitable are not attracted to them? Do they put their career first until they get into their 30′s and find that by then, all the good men who want marriage are gone and the remainder are not interested? The female lawyers that I have met want a nice boyfriend/husband like most other women (Women do not need men and men do not need women, so no related comments please).
My mother in law passed away in April this year and my father in law is terminally ill and will also pass away any time – probably a few months at best. My husband is an only child.
Because of how things are, my husband’s inheritance from the sale of his parents house etc., will be finalised this week. It will be between 0,000 & 0,000 (depending on how much the solicitor takes out for his fees etc.)
So my mother in law had said when I fell pregnant with my daughter (her first grandchild) that she was going to write into her will that she wanted ,000 set aside for my daughter as an inheritance. This was in 2005.
I was 10 weeks pregnant when she died and I presume she would have wanted the same for her 2nd grandchild also, so we will be setting up 2 trust accounts for each of her bio-logical grandchildren to receive when they are aged 21.
The question is though, is that I have 4 children from my first marriage, whom she treated as her own grandchildren and even made reference to them as her grandchildren in her last letter to us (she committed suicide).
We own our house outright already and have a successful business and no debts so the money is not really needed and we will probably invest it, so I was thinking that perhaps it would be nice to give the 4 other kids a smaller portion for their future.
We do not speak to my mother and their grandmother from my 1st husband only sees them a few times a year – so it was the only nana they knew and were heartbroken when she died.
Do you think it would be appropriate to give the other 4 kids say ,000 as well for when they are older from their nana?
I did ask my father in law what he wanted as really it is his money still, but he is too ill to understand us and did not answer.
I am worried that if I do give them money, at a lesser amount, they may be resentful that the 2 biological grandchildren got so much more, but they would be hurt to not be included as well.
And if we do this, should we tell them it’s what nana wanted so they feel like they were remembered?
My mother in law said back in 2005 that she wanted to do this to make it fair, as the 4 kids from my 1st husband would inherit from that side of the family so this way it would end up fair on all the kids, but my ex-husband does not even pay child support so the 4 kids wont get a cent anyway. She wanted it so it would be fair, not because she loved them any different.
Or should we give them all ,000 for their future and invest the other 0,000 (for our retirement).
It was actually my husband’s idea to give them all something. He treats them all as his own and just wants everyone to be happy and secure.
And my mother in law never actually wrote anything about it into her will, but because we know it’s what she wanted we are doing it.
My father in law has signed it all over to my husband now, so the payment is coming to my husband this week. We will be getting it before my FIL passes away.
British husband, 2 children, they all move to England, he throws her out in England, she has Bi-Polar & heart condition, she has no money & has children 50/50 with husband, (his other 5 children born by assort women out of marriage don’t want her or her 2 children to benefit by him throwing her out) she has to rent near where husband is (walking distance cuts down costs) her gives her 0 towards her rent (it’s 5 a week) but nothing else for young children or her, she doesn’t want to leave her children, does volunteer work but can’t find paying job and has no family or friends, is there any support network or welfare or legal aid this Australian can access in Britain… they moved about 6 months ago, and up until then her British husband was collecting both Australian and British age pensions (while as a British resident in Australia) and she had part time paid social work which helped to pay their living costs. Any suggestions where she can get help or if the British give helping hands to Australians as we fork over welfare & pensions to the British while they are here?
Any suggestions as to where my friend could go for help would be greatly appreciated.
i am separated with a 9 month old girl.Basically my ex husband who i was with for nearly 5 years was emotionally and physically abusive in this time along with his family members who caused me alot of distress. Through my pregnancy he tortured me as his family were trying to sabotage our marriage and had brainwashed him. I was not working at the time he did not support me in any way financially or emotionally he was abusive especially when he found out i was having a girl,any way to cut a long story short once i gave birth we separated and had to get an avo as he started hitting me even when i was feeding my 4 week old daughter didn’t want anything to do with her and wished she never existed claimed accidents can happen meaning i should watch our backs. He hasn’t seen my daughter for 6 months and suddenly now claims he wants to see her i know there must be a motive he is dangerous and vindictive as he did say he will drag out our settlement as he would rather solicitors have the money and wants to destroy my life along with my daughter. I am worried with this new reform that he will have his way and my daughter will be in harms way.
Hi, I have just had my divorce petition through from the solicitors (lawyers), although I knew it was coming it is still a shock.
She finished the marriage, I suspected there was someone else, which turned out to be true, although she said she never slept with him until after I left.
I have to be the reason for the divorce as I cannot afford to divorce her as she gets legal aid. I just feel like I did all I could, and she fell in love with someone else . She has the house, kids, car, money and new lover and I am left with nothing, not even my pride. And I am offically having to take the blame too.
Why do I have to be the one to lose everything?
Please tell that there is some sort of equalibrium and that some day I will find the happiness I deserve, because right now, I’m not sure if I want to see another day.
She’s the last thing I think of at night and the first thing in the morning, how do I escape from this torture. I’m so lonely and desperate, I have no friends here either.
I recently seperated. While I was married 13 years I think the last 2 were just breaking up. Anyway my ex wife got a new job, as a result the first year she had to be away. During this time she had numerous affairs. When we got back together I thought she would stop, but it continued. She only does it when drunk. We have 3 young boys. I decided to end when she got drunk while I was away and allowed herself to be used in front of the kids. Now as I have stated I want no more of her, she has been angry and aggressive. First trying to block custody. Even though I tried for 50 – 50, due to alcohol incidences I ended up with the kids. Kids like this arrangement. Still I want kids to see their mum but she is being difficult. I can not understand I wanted just to end marriage and divide everything 50 – 50. She will not agree, she used to care for her kids now we are losing everything due to solicitor fees. Because she lost kids she wants to drag out property settlement. I was not the one who made her lose the kids, they decided they had enough. At moment I need to make a desicion to stay were I am or move due to financial reason’s. If I move it means kids will have access to mum reduced even more. I have tried to explain my situation to her but she still seems angry blames me. Tells kids its not her that wanted the marriage to end. Yes i ended the marriage, but I do not feel it was my choice. I just want to move on with life. But in order for anyone to move on she needs to allow communication. How do I get her to communicate, without costly solicitors.
My boys are aged 8, 10 and 12. They have a good idea whats going on. They are happy to go but they also love their mum. Seems it is up to me to decide. I look at going seems so many good points and when you look at staying it is only for her. At moment she is not even seeing them. I had hoped over time she would have calmed down. And losing her kids would have made her change back to who she was. Seems only made it worse.
Custody already decided they are with me. This was easy due to neglect when drunk. Kids also wanted this. So custody seems a breeze compared to the property settlement. I feel her solicitor is not helping her. I mean she is offered 50%, considering she lost custody you would think she would be reasonable. While she feels she is paying for her solicitor, she is not paying her share of joint loans. If bank closes loans we lose house which we purchased to provide future equity for kids. I just want to know how to make her listen to reason, and get a better solicitor. Or simply just settle.
Thanks for the advise. Seems I know what to do, just hate having to do it. But hearing other people say what I am thinking reassures me.
We have seperated and he is refusing to pay me money he borrowed from me and my half of bond money. I’ve been to a solicitor and he’s sent my maggot of a husband a letter stating payment within 7 days. It’s now been 9 days and we’ve not heard a word. My husband is a police officer and verbally abused me for 12 months until I got the money to GET OUT. I’m now on my own and I want my money. For the last 6 months of my marriage, I lived in the spare room of the house we were renting. I was paying half the rent and half of every bill that came into the place. Also half food bills. If he laid eyes on me he would verbally abuse me. He accused me of having toy boys and sugar daddys because I wasn’t giving him sex. He is a VERY HEAVY DRINKER. 133 cans of beer in 12 days. He drives DRUNK and is not worried about getting caught because he’s stated, ALL I HAVE TO DO IS FLASH MY BADGE and they’ll let me drive off. This man has no concience. He’s a drunken abuser and doesn’t care.
My sister has a 2 year old son. Her husband left her for another woman when he was 3 weeks old. Since then they have had another baby. They have recently requested to have her son every other weekend over night. My sister has agreed to this, even though she knows this woman destroyed her marriage. However, they live 100 miles away (her ex’s choice) and he is insisting she drops him off there. She has refused as advised by her solicitor. As he is a manipulative bully he is now threatening her with court action stating he wants half custody of their son. Would he be successful if this went to court. On top of this our Mom is currently dying from lung cancer and he knows this but is still persuing these petty issues – he is totally dispicable!
I am desparate. My ex is causing me much grief at the moment and i will lose the little security that is legally mine but that my ex initially under handedly stole then kept hidden somewhere. I am certain i have a good case against my credit union. My ex,s friend worked there when they made the illegal transaction. My ex left the family home with most our accumalted possessions, 7 years ago. The reason this legal action has taken so long to act upon is basically – I lost the plot in a big way. Whereas I was practical & accepting of the whole separation issue. It was he {and his family’s] unneccessary bittrly venomuos attacks made against me – but worse was what they did to my daughter. [Ex is not her biological father though often spoke of adopting her] I discovered the truth of my marriage, I got physically ill & lost job. many failed jobs, Now deeply depressed. marriage is sacred & my daughter my highest priorty. I failed her I let evil in our home I only want what is mine & hers hel
My parents have changed their will so that only my sister and I inherit. I am married with children but have children to a former marriage who I do not wish to inherit nor do my parents as they are more than adequately taken care of already. My parents want me to spend around 0 to make a will with their solicitor but I don’t have that sort of money. Will one of those do it yourself kits be ok? Has anyone had any dealings with these?
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