me and my ex split 4 yrs ago and ever since its been a nightmare! hes taken my son out 2 meet up with women and has put me through hell. at this moment in time he has not seen my son for 13 weeks but a few weeks ago my son was playing outside and he came in the street and took him without me knowing, i phoned the police and they went around to his house said he was fine so they wouldn’t take him from there. before this he has spoken to my son on the phone and told him that he wants me dead( my son is 6) hes always making comments about me and my son is in the middle of all this, my ex has started a relationship with a woman who claims to be a police woman. my ex has rang me saying that he can get my son taken off me and as she has a job with the police she can "use" her job to get what he wants, I’m a single mum and i work to provide for me and my son its not great money but its a job. he says also that i work in a dead end job and i cant support him at all. at the time he made me feel so guilty i let my son go with his father and his girlfriend as i thought i was the right thing to do, but then my son came home and told me that they said to him if your mum don’t want you, you can live with us! I’m at my wits end with this all so ive contacted my solicitor and stopped him seeing our son, my ex has also stopped money for my son the past 2 months. My son has also started back at school and on the second day back he got sent home ill, ive noticed hes being sick also the past few days not a bug just sick, when i took my son back to school he got to the school gates and started saying i feel sick, i cant breath, he refused to go into school, i asked him whats wrong and he said please let me come home with you, with all thats happened i broke down, i brought my son back home and hes fine! i just dont no what to do anymore, i feel ive let him down for the little life hes had, i feel such guilt for him and wonder if he needs help, PLEASE if any1 can suggest anything id be so greatfull.
with regards to your answers im so greatful to you all, my son means the world to me. my son always askes me how much i love him to which we both respond to "all the stars in the sky", hes my life and its killing me seeing him like this, with responce to the first answer, i do no about law ive spend the last 4 yrs on this, but when it comes to someone putting you down as a mum it hurts the worst was possile and u do nuthing but doubt it. i suffered post natal depression after the birth and nearly died i lost 5 pints of blood and nuthing went right. if i could wrap my son up in cotton wool forever i would, life aint like that tho and im asking for help. yes i live in the uk. my solicitor is great.
My daughter is 4 years old and I broke up with her father not long after she was born. The father has never lived in the same town as us, and has rarely seen his daughter. He only lives a couple of hours away, but has never been willing to use his money to get here. We are still on speaking terms and though he tells me he loves his daughter he has never put in any effort with her. He has never even paid child support.
Suddenly he decided that he wants to be part of my daughter’s life and have her stay with him. This really worries me for quite a number of different reasons:
Firstly, he has implied that he intends to have my daughter around his friends. He has told me numerous stories over the years about some of these people… some of the stories include dealing and taking drugs, living in filth and abusing animals. He also wants to invite his latest girlfriend into my daughter’s life. He has only just started dating this girl, and I know absolutely nothing about her. I really don’t feel comfortable leaving my daughter with him and his girlfriend.
He abuses alcohol on a regular basis and has described himself to me as an "alcoholic". He has a history of mental illness and has problems with anger. He also suffers from bipolar and has threatened to kill himself more than once. The times when he actually has come to visit us he has had a lot of trouble dealing with our daughter’s behavior. One time he became frustrated and burst into tears because she had a small tantrum.
He really doesn’t seem as though he is mature enough to look after a child. He has no manners and thinks that it’s funny to teach children bad habits. I have witnessed him saying inappropriate things to other children in the past. The things that he said to the child were offensive and sexist and go against the type of things that I have tried to teach my daughter so far. I want my daughter to have morals, but I don’t think that her father would be doing her any good in that respect.
My biggest problem is that I feel as though he is rushing into things. My daughter barely knows him and I don’t think she should suddenly be left to spend a night with her father, who is basically a complete stranger to her. I am also suspicious about his motives for suddenly wanting to spend time with his daughter. It is odd that he had no interest in her before and now he wants to take such a big step. It feels like he doesn’t have our daughter’s best interest at heart and is only wanting to do this for himself. What will happen when he realizes that parenting is not as simple as he thought it would be? I think my daughter will behave herself for the first few visits while her father is giving her gifts and spoiling her, but as soon as they get used to each other things will change. I am scared that my daughter will get attached to her father and then end up having her heart broken.
I told the father that I was worried, and he told me that there’s nothing I can do to stop him.
I don’t want to stop him entirely from seeing his daughter. All I want is for his visits to be supervised and for him not to be allowed to bring his friends along.
Is it within my right to set these boundaries? Is her father entitled to overnight visits? And should I get a solicitor?
If anyone could give me some information here it would be very much appreciated. Thanks.
I want to know if there are solicitors in Sydney or Australia or if they even exist whereby if you don’t win the case, you don’t pay. No win, no fee – something like that.
The reason being is that my girlfriend was sexually harassed in the workforce some 4 months ago and we’re contemplating taking him to court and taking the matter further, after he denied allegations against him in a 19-page statement I submitted to the Human Rights organisation here in Sydney. We both know we have a case and a strong case.
My girlfriend is experiencing flashbacks and often has nightmares about the incidences and the ex-employer. We must pursue this case further.
Again, I want to know if there are any solicitors in Sydney, Australia who offer a no win, no fee basis. If so, how do we find them. Does anyone know what they are called? Any other information would be highly appreciated.
I hope to hear from you all soon.
Thanks in advance.
My nasty neighbor is moving to Arizona (thank God) from Michigan. His current wife went to the police with marks on her body, but she didn’t press charges and the creep wasn’t even arrested. His previous girlfriend also had him arrested, but he was able to have his record expunged because it was his first offense and they sent him to a couple of classes, big deal! What if he hits his wife in Arizona. Will he be let off free again or are the laws more strict.