I have had my six year old son six nights a fortnight but only if I agreed to pay full Child Support, at the rate I would pay If I had no care, and I had to agree to let her have all the family tax benifit. At the same time I have cared for him, clothed him, taken him to sport, fed him Taken him to school provided school lunches etc. I have even had to get seperate skripts for medication. After the latest interest rate hike I said enough is enough and notified CSA of the care arrangements, now his mother has stopped me seeing him and I’m going to have to borrow money from my parents to pay a solicitor to get to see my son! I know there are lots of dead beat Dads out there but It seems that if your fairdinkum about doing whats right for your kids and your a Dad with a dead beat Mum to fight she Gets everything for free and holds the trump card the Child/Children and proceeds to use them as emotional blackmail. where is the Government? She should be paying my cost’s. No Equity!!!
Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
Hi there … my ex hubby made me fight him to the tune of $50K between us over 2 yrs. We had shared care (me during the day and him at night) but everyone (centrelink, CSA) kept saying that because I didn’t tuck them in at night that I didn’t have care of them!! I fought hard to prove my existence and the court awarded shared care but I had to pay support because I earn more. As soon as it was settled he nicked off (& got 50% of the settlement as well) and has them every 2nd weekend and threw in a good paying job to be ‘self employed’. Because I have them about 70% of the time but I earn more (even now while I’m on maternity leave (new hubby)) I still have to pay him about $80/wk. He used to pay half of school, excursions etc and since he took off he has not paid a cent. With the new rules on 1 July things will be in my favour … anyway … the $$ I had to borrow to fight for my children was totally worth it. If you can show that you have had consistent care of your son then the courts will allow you to have that back again. The court doesn’t care much about what was paid in support or not they are really focused on keeping things consistent with the child. I don’t think the courts will be happy if they see your ex decided to stop the ‘status quo’ of care. Definately see a solicitor and stand up to that self biatch – I can’t stand women (or men) who use their kids as ammunition – the kids get so hurt in this crap. I’m sure your ex thinks she is doing what’s best for your son…. what an idiot she is.
The Government knows that’s it’s Not fair. It was said that NO ONE says 17% is fair but it’s the figure that the law makers came up with.
Fathers who pay support are the most harrassed because they list their jobs & address and because they pay their support. So the courts raise the support every year or so and allow many mothers to get away with interferring with the father’s right to see his child. The reason these fathers are so harrassed by everyone is because they can’t find the real dead beats! So let’s drain the paying fathers out of every single dime he’s got … oh, let’s also keep him from his seeing his child. We’ll just tell the kid that his father is a dead beat and doesn’t love you. Sad … but true!