10 mths ago i came out of a 12 yr on/off relationship. we are now going thru a property settlement with solicitors involved. He left me. we were arguing so much and had been in business together for yrs.I had given him his jobs the last 8 yrs as he had a back op and was finding it hard to work. I have been left in a large house and accommodation business. We cant agree on a settlement but to cut a long story short, i did have a rebound relationship and then met up with my ex after this and im pregnant.Now 5 mths.
I had my periods with my ex and took morning after pill with rebound relationship, but still pregnant. I dont even sleep around but im still depressed after this breakup and am so lonely.
I just work in this house all day and ex is five hrs away. He says he will come back only if the dna says its his child, so he musnt love me.
we argue now constantly trying to divide assetts.
How do i move on, esp being pregnant?
I still love ex, but hes never coming back to me.
PLEASE Help- im so lonely .im nearly 37 and hate my life
Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
your mom goes to college!
Hi there, this is a very tough situation i can understand. 12 years?? Wow that’s a long time. Okay, who cares if ur 37?? you are pregnant with the most beautiful thing ever. i know that when the baby comes out, you will be the happiest youve ever been in your life. i cuddled my baby nephew for the first time yesterday, he is 2 months old. i was conncected to him straight away, and i absoulutely love him. i couldn’t stop smiling/laughing the whole day/night.
This is what i recommend:
check if the baby is your ex , if so, then good, you two have another chance to get things together . so what if he is just there for the baby, you two may get a better relationship out of it. Remember time apart heals. are you in any relationship with the person that got you pregnant? if so, then this is good as well. this means you can gradually get over your ex and start a new, happy life
here are some sites you can check out
Getting over an ex
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Get-Over-an-Ex-Boyfriend&id=394112
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/30461/top_5_ways_to_get_over_an_exboyfriend.html
Stop arguing in a relationship
http://www.articlealley.com/article_721726_35.html
http://www.ehow.com/how_4505973_stop-arguing-relationship.html
How to be happy!!
http://www.smh.com.au/executive-style/culture/key-to-happiness-be-kind-exercise-20090911-fjy2.html
I hope i helped you at least a little bit
You will rebound from this, I promise. I went through something similar, and believe me, it was not easy at first, but eventually things worked out. One thing I learned from it. Never move on too quickly. You are too vulnerable when you first leave a relationship!
By the way, I was in my most recent relationship for 12 years also. It took me over 2 years to get back to being me again and being able to move on, but I did.
Once the baby comes, you mind will be occupied with taking care of the new love of your life–your child. I used to hate being alone, but after about a year of it, I love it. The freedom of not having to tell anyone what you are doing, and the ability to be more spontaneous is wonderful. And I control the remote!! lol
wow that was a lot of reading. Listen hun. sometimes relationships even after 12 years long don’t work out the way you think they should. people change. he’s changed. although you’ve always loved him, he’s not the same man anymore. The thing is that you have to learn how to love yourself. I know you’ve been with him so long that you don’t know how to function being without him. but sometimes that’s just as much as an unhealthy way to live life as a functional relationship is healthy. You become co-dependent and don’t know how to survive on your own. hence what you’re doing right now…. still living in the past rather than seizing the present. you need to move on. The last thing you want is someone staying because of a kid. it means they’re only staying because of an obligation, not because of you. "you don’t want a hostage hun" you have to as hard as it may seem, learn how to move on and learn to love yourself in the process which I’m seeing you haven’t done in a long time cause you’ve been so busy focused on him. It’s time hun. it’s time. You will be able to make it, but it won’t be easy, but you will. Oh and about the baby. There are lots of 37 year olds that have kids. No one says they’d like to be a single mother but when that little light comes out of you, you’ll find that reason to live again. Stronger than ever.
not that I have kids, cause I don’t but I hear that’s what people say about them. you’ll make it hun. just be strong
". so what if he is just there for the baby, you two may get a better relationship out of it." Please don’t listen to this advice. It’s destructive and isn’t fair to you or to him. and if you really care about someone, you have to be able to let them go sometimes. Putting your own wants over his is never a way to really get anyone back. It’s selfish and only serves to make something last that isn’t real anymore in the first place. Good luck hun