Jun
24
my ex husband owes me over ,000 in back child support. He cannot be tracked down by the Child support agency so they have said bad luck, it just keeps adding up until they do find him.
Can i personaly track him down ,and if i do find him can i then go to a solicitor to sue him for the money.
i don’t live on the child support but i do think that his kids are entitled to it.
Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
You can, and then take the information to CSA to collect, you don’t need to start with a lawyer. Problem is how much are you willing to spend on a private investigator to get the money??
Normally our chase and locates run anywhere from $1000-$3000, and that’s paid up front regardless of if we find anyone or not. PI’s don’t work on contingency.
I say good for your Ex husband, I’m a man and I love to hear stories of other men who can’t be tracked down by Child Support Agencies. this is how men get back at women for all the crappy divorce settlements.
whoa the guy above me who answered first as problems. if i were you i would do anything i could to get him tracked down. have people look up his social security number and where and whens the last time he used it. your right your kids are 100% entitled too it. i hope you find him. goodluck
You can do whatever you want to find him and yes you can sue him. You should think about spending any money out of your own pocket when the odds are slim you’ll get any payments from him, especially if he’s in a different state.
Hire a private detective to search for him. If you dont want to spend the money to do so, sit and wait. It may take a while but he will surface in time. If he doesnt, look at it this way. 1. He isnt in your life or the kid(s) and isnt it better that way. You be the better parent and support and be there for them. That is all you can do until he’s found. IF he is found and doesnt keep a job, you wont get the money anyway.
Some may say you had the child with this person and even though you cant take it back, better off without him.
How much money do you plan to spend tracking him down and then taking him to court? $5000 or $10,000? It could easily run up that high if he has left the country and you are paying a private investigator and attorney. If you can afford to spend this kind of money just locating and getting the money out of your husband, your children don’t need his money, because you have more than enough to support them. Child support isn’t an entitlement. It isn’t money they get to make up for daddy not being around anymore. It is money that is meant to make sure that they have everything they need while growing up. What if you don’t find him? All that money which could have been spent on your children has gone to waste. Wouldn’t that be wonderful? Excuse me if I seem a bit cynical, but I have a bit of experience with the overly generous settlements that our courts system grants to mothers. I grew up watching my father barely scrape together enough money to make it every month and that is even with two jobs. I was his child from the first marriage. My mother only had to pay my father one hundred dollars a month in child support. My father had two children to his second wife and she left him while they were pretty young. Keep in mind that she left him, because she found someone new. My father had no evidence of this that he could present so when the time came to go to court, he got screwed. The same judge who ordered my mother to pay my father only one hundred dollars a month for me, ordered my father to pay his second wife four hundred dollars a month for her two children. Because he was a man and the support was being payed to him by a woman, I was only worth 100 a month, but because he was a man paying support to a women he children were worth 400 a month. My father got a lawyer, to see if he could get the support reduced. Since he had taken a second job, the lawyer advised him to leave it alone or he might end up paying more. I don’t blame your ex-husband from hiding. It is probably the only way that he can lead a halfway normal life.
You can try to track him down but if he has left the state or the country you might be wasting your time. As some other people have pointed out, it is very expensive for private detectives and attorneys and all that money, which would be better spent on your children, will have been wasted. How badly do your children need the money? If your children don’t really need it and you can take care of them fine, what is the point in getting the money out of him, other than revenge? That’s not the example you want to set for your children. Live and let live I always say. Dwelling on it is only going to make you bitter anyway.
I’d just let it go, not much sense flogging a dead horse. The Child support agency may find him one day, or maybe one day he will find the desire to know his children…