Hi, I have just had my divorce petition through from the solicitors (lawyers), although I knew it was coming it is still a shock.
She finished the marriage, I suspected there was someone else, which turned out to be true, although she said she never slept with him until after I left.
I have to be the reason for the divorce as I cannot afford to divorce her as she gets legal aid. I just feel like I did all I could, and she fell in love with someone else . She has the house, kids, car, money and new lover and I am left with nothing, not even my pride. And I am offically having to take the blame too.
Why do I have to be the one to lose everything?
Please tell that there is some sort of equalibrium and that some day I will find the happiness I deserve, because right now, I’m not sure if I want to see another day.
She’s the last thing I think of at night and the first thing in the morning, how do I escape from this torture. I’m so lonely and desperate, I have no friends here either.
Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
mate, to be honest it happened to me aswell. well me n my ex separated for over 3 years now. i know exactely how u feel. im not going to promise u it can be easy. but what ill promise u that it will get easy with time. so all u have to do is to hang on there. i know rite now u dont feel like doing anything. thats ok. take ur time. mmy ex left me for her first lover as well. the best thing to do would be to forgive her. sounds strange but its for ur own good as "U CAN ONLY FORGET IF U FORGIVE".
take ur time ur all good. browse net read articles. dont rush it. its a once in a life time experience.U R WHOLE LIFE DEPENDS HOW GOOD U HANDLE THIS . MATE GOOD LUCK WITH ALL THIS.
awww!!!!
this made me want to cry!!!
you will get what you deserve!!
promise!!!
good luck!
Gotta pick up all the pieces and put a new life together. Use this time to make yourself a better person and never give up your pursuit of happiness.
It seems to me you can’t afford to not get yourself a lawyer, or at the very least, some legal advice.
Hang in there partner – right now you are feeling overwhelm, which is normal – you’re not the 1st to have this happen nor will you be the last. Everything will work out for you – probably doesn’t feel like it, but remember this – EVERYTHING will work out for the best – you will see – just will take some time. In the interim, focus on you – stay busy – stay healthy.
Youre right, no matter how well you prepare yourself for this day,its still a hell of a shock. What youre feeling is normal but this is not your fault at all even though you think it is and wonder if theres something different you could have done. Remember what goes around comes around and he new lover may leave her too and then she ll be alone. In time these feelings will pass,a little more each day, and God willing,youll receive a second chance and find someone new. Good luck
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Is there any way that you can qualify for legal aid as well?
I do believe that one day you will wake up, and it won’t be so hard. And then every day after that will be a little easier…it just takes time. I know it seems like small consolation, but it really is true.
Good luck, I wish you the best.
she will do the same to the new man in her life, first of all please get out and make friends and start enjoying your life. and ask yourself this, why would you want someone that doesn’t want you.be very careful and do not let her know how hurt you are and you think of her night and day all that will do is open a door to where she can use you because of your feelings for her’ move on please for your own sake and look at it as her loss not your loss.
Join a gym or something-make new friends and remember you are a good person and what comes around goes around-things will balance out for you-keep your chin up!It gets better and you never know maybe she did you a favor and someone way better than her will come into your life!
Remember that you are not the first nor the last one that this has happened to. I’am in a very similar situation as well. You lost everything because of you’re selfish wife, but just know that you tried everything to make it work. Concentrate on the time that you do have with you’re kids and moving on with your life.
About your wife, as the saying goes "once a cheater always a cheater." She will cheat again or the other guy will cheat on her. Karma. Whenever you start thinking about your wife, find something else to think about. Get out of the house and go out for a run or to take a class.
Don’t worry about finding happiness, it will find you. One day you will find someone that deserves you and respects you.