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First of all, remain calm … he’s threatening to go for custody b/c he knows that will get a reaction out of you and you’ll be more likely to do what he wants in order to appease him and not go to court …. it’s called manipulation, or being a bully. Look at it realistically – if you have raised your daughter to this point, take good care of her, meet all of her physical, emotional needs and ensure her safety and have done so for the last TWO years, what grounds does this father have to say you are unfit? Not to mention, he’s gonna have a fun time explaining to a judge where he’s been the last 16 months.

Having said that, he is still your daughter’s father and she has the right to know him and have a relationship with him – providing it is positive for her, consistent and her well-being/safety is not compromised. Be reasonable in allowing him some visitation, but be child focused as well. He needs to understand that this is not about him or you, but about your daughter. If you two can be civil and it is safe, consider meeting him in a public area (like a park, play group, etc.) with you present so he can spend time with your daughter, but she has the comfort of having a familiar person there. if this doesn’t work, consider getting a neutral third person you can agree upon to help with this. If the father sticks around and is demonstrating committment to your daughter, then you can begin to re-evaluate and maybe increase how much time/how often they have contact. When your lawyer gets back, speak with him/her about putting everything in writing so you will have something binding if you need to go to court in the future.

hmmm, I’m no solicitor, but as I understand it the court is likely to grant him unsupervised visitation unless you can prove he is violent or abusive.