My friend has no rights re his children. Ex can threaten to take him to court "at his expence" whenever he stands his ground to enforce access orders. She of course gets "Legal Aid" so can afford to "modify" orders to suit. For a father to re-enforce them requires lots of money and a sympathetic magistrate otherwise he is accused of being petty! In addition the mother is able to send the 15yo child overseas to study without consent from dad and still claim full child support. Although the child is emailing dad claiming he is there without any money the CSA dont want to know or demand a wad of paper work.
Why dont men fight back? My friend says its because they dont have the right anatomy; because they dont have the money after paying child support; because they are treated like criminals in the court room; that they are now deemed 100% responsible for all births; and who listens?
Why is the legal system discriminating against men? Will our sons be the next victims of this system?
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Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
i agree. some courts will only listen to mothers. my uncle had great kids, but the mother was not all there. he took care of the kids completely. when they divorced becasue of a bad marriage, the mother got full custody of the kids. she had never been a good mother and never will be. he was left alone after all the hard work of being a great father. his ex wife turned his kids against him. she made them hate him. when he sends checks to the kids for their birthday, they send them back ripped up. the courts are making a biig mistake by automatically giving custody to mothers. there are two parents and they both deserve to see and have the kids.
Sons are already suffering. Just look at the gang culture. Young guys growing up in homes without male role models to teach them how to be men. They’re lost.
I agree with you the fathers are at a disadvantage when it comes to custody / visitation / support / legal fees etc.
well first off, someone is lying somewhere. his mother cannot send a 15 yr old overseas without the fathers permission if he is paying child support. Fathers do get a raw deal, but its not as black and white as you are painting it in every case
Yes DADS do have rights but if they have solid reasons to pursue their case in the court.
Here in AZ fathers have access to the same legal aid when it comes to child support matters. I would think it extends to other matters as well.
Have him band together with other NCP’s (Non Custodial Parents) and sue the state for equal treatment. I have always said it isn’t fair that they give all the benefits to the CP (custodial Parent) and none to the NCP yet they expect the NCP to pay and do whatever they say.
Well men do have rights’s but like your friend said it takes money anything takes money anymore. But the dad just needs to push for his rights. He has to push are far as he can, he has to show that he is genuinely concerned and has much worry about his kids. He has to make a paper trail where ever he is and whatever he is doing. He has to show that he has a interests in everything have to do with his kids. He needs to get all of this together and then take the mom to court, dads do have just as much right as moms. He is just going to have to try harder for the fact that he is the dad, sorry to say but it is just easier for woman, and I know that it is not right but that is the way that it is. But kudos to the man who is willing to take a part in his kids life for that he is a GREAT man in my book.
Why don’t you look at the other side of this. He says because he doesn’t have the right anatomy, ha ha ha. Woman suffer still to day because we don’t have that one little extra muscle that men do. Stop whining. I know my child wont suffer from the presidents we are setting now because after watching me raise him by myself since he was born I’m sure he’ll do the right things in life and not end up in the same place his fathers been since my son entered this world!
If he truelly wants his child, he WILL fight for them. Sell what you have to if it means that. Do anything it takes. We fathers have rights to.
I truly feel for your friend, My partner had the same issues with his ex, but don’t give up there is change happening in the courts, as far as CSA is concerned I suggest he be diligent to the point if they say one thing he can look back on his notes and show them what happend, my partners ex had an affair with a man and asked CSA for a DNA he wash fogged of as well. Family Courts are not interested in the adults they are only concerned for the children, not the mother or father or their personal issues, only the children, i find it hard to understand why the father has not contacted CSA and demanded as his right to know where the money is being spent, he can do that now, keep every bit of information of contact with CSA and mother, but remember its not the father or Mother that should be the concern its the children, there is always a lot of animosity when there are children involved, tell your friend to go to a councillor with her for the sake of the children rather than wasting the courts time with petty issues. I don’t understand woman it upsets me knowing that they use children as a pawn, my partner is now deceased and will never know if his daughter loved him.