Jun
18
i have a nearly 6month old lil girl to a man who has never seen her (didnt want to be a father). I have not spoken to him since i was 6mnths pregnant. He has ignored child support and now the solicitors (he is being served papers this week). He has not told his family about his daughter either.
I received a text message at 3am saying "Im sorry".
What the hell is this??? and why am i left feeling alil sad about this?? i have ignored it and the solicitor told me to not make contact.
Why has he done this? Please i need some more advice im abit lost here.
Cheers
Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
Honey I know it’s hard for you but to me it seems he may be trying to make contact to maybe see if you would feel sorry for him and not serve him but don’t back down you are just being so vulnerable because you are raising your baby with out her daddy and I want you to know I respect you so much for not contacting him back and have held up and took responsibility for your baby even though the daddy walked out on you. You don’t need him, he doesn’t deserve to have you or that baby girl not only that you deserve better than that if you let him back in he will probably think he can just run out anytime he wants when the going gets rough! You keep your head up it will get better and just love your baby you don’t need a man to complete you either the best love you can ever get is from your baby! But if you ever need anything I know I am a stranger but coming from a mother I know how hard it is to raise a baby and doing it alone though my husband didn’t walk out we separated before but I can say he is a good daddy but I have had my fair share of doing it by myself to realize that if it ever came down to it I would choose my baby over it all! If you ever get tempted to speak with him hide your phone from your self it will only hurt you more to speak with him and you and that baby girl don’t deserve a dead beat daddy! I wish you the best of luck and will keep you in my prayers and I respect you highly for not giving up!
You’ve already received the right advice, don’t make contact with him. For any reason at all. The legal system is a funny thing.
ignore him his just trying to butter you up so he can get away with child support etc.
don’t talk to him, if he is still sorry after he is paying child support and the solicitors are finished doing what they have to.. then see what he has to say.
good luck (:
He has not told his family about his daughter, that says alot. The 3am sorry is only for himself! Papers are being served and that is what he is sorry about, as his family will know exactly what the situation is and he will have to be accountable for his actions!. You are a very good strong brave lady. And yes you would have felt a little sad as this was the first time he acknowledged you and your daughter. How sad that he did not want to be a father and take some responsibility, as now he will just have to do that very thing! Hang in there and good luck!