(recently asked this question but thought id put it into the law cat)
Before i go along ill give some of the details.
im 15 years old (16 very soon), and my bfs 16 years old.
Im 33 weeks pregnant, and hes the father. His mother holds
a large grudge against mine, for stupid reasons that my mum has no idea what shes talking about.
Ok. so 10 mins ago i called my bfs mum too see if he was there, she started going on about how half of the baby bonus (If you dont live in australia, Look up AUS BABY BONUS on googe-basically its a sum of money that you get for having the baby too help you buy stuff for the child and keep you financially stable for the first few months) anyways, she started going on about how half of it belongs too my boyfriend, and that shes going too put it in a trust fund for the baby. (I had no objection too that cos i was already doing the same). Thing is. The trust fund will only be accesable too her and my boyfriend. They are both drug adicts and alcoholics, she wants too get a solicitor, too make all the arrangements and is doing that WITH MY BOYFRIEND tomorrow. She has been threatning me all throughout this pregnancy, and i cant take it. Im stressing out so much. (im crying at the moment).I keep telling my boyfriend too stop stiring sh*t between my family and his but he just keeps going. His mum doesnt have a right to anything does she?
I dont know what too do. i wish i was never bringing such a beautiful think like my daughter into such a hatefull family like theres.
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my mothers calling a solicitor tomorrow morning. =]
Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
Are you kidding me…? They sound HORRIBLE — I’m so sorry you got mixed up in a situation like this, and I’m more sorry that your baby is suffering from your stress, and, it looks like, will continue to suffer with half of her family being drug-addicted bullies.
I don’t know about the laws in Australia (never even heard of the baby bonus), but there must be SOMEONE you and your family can talk to about this. This is a serious situation that you need real legal advice about, something much more substantial than you might be able to get on Yahoo answers. You and I both know that that woman and her son will squander that money and leave NOTHING for the baby. If your side could prove that they are drug & alcohol addicted, that might work in your favor.
My other advice to you — and I know this might seem nearly impossible — is to try to stay as stress-free as possible. Only speak to them if you absolutely HAVE to — if not, get a mediator, like your mother or a good friend or relative, to do it for you. You do NOT — I repeat, you do NOT — need this stress right now. You are so, so young to be starting out life as a mother, and you have the absolute biggest responsibility and challenge in the WORLD ahead of you right now, and your priority is to keep yourself and your baby as healthy as possible. Do NOT let these thugs jeopardize your pregnancy — do NOT. This woman obviously doesn’t give a damn about you, so try as hard as you can not to let her get to you, no matter what it takes. You have to take on a very adult role right now, and you have to draw an incredible amount of strength to get through this.
You need your entire family’s support through this. Don’t rely on your "boyfriend" (and I use that term very loosely — why are you with a drug addict anyway?) to help you through it or to get his mother off your back. If he cared about you or his child, he would get off the drugs and take responsibility by standing up to that woman.
You and your family need to get on this issue as soon as possible — don’t wait. I’m hoping that your "boyfriend" and his mother can’t take half of your baby bonus…there must be some law or rule concerning that.
I really hope you can take care of yourself through this, no matter what. If worst comes to worst and they are able to get some of the money, let them take it and stay away from them. You don’t want that sort of influence around your precious little one.
Good luck with everything, and keep your head up. As long as you have your friends and family by your side and stay strong, you will be fine, I promise.
Tell you boyfriends mom to mind her own business and be a good mother to your child and raise it and take cre of it and look out for the child
You’re 15 and pregnant.
Unless your independently wealthy – which most people are not at 15, you’re going to need some help. Baby’s are expensive!
You’re going to need help.
You would THINK you would be grateful.
im pretty sure she has no right to that money. sure, its her sons child, but youre the one carrying the child, and if you’re already setting up a trust fund anyways, then she has no legitimate reason for the money, right? apart from using it for her addictions…
Listen to Your Mother sweety, You will find that the baby bonus goes to the baby’s Mother, so go with Your Mother to the solicitor and make sure that those Money grabbing mdrug addicts don’t get a cent of it.
After all , it is designed to help the Mother establish an amount of necessary things that all babies should have.
Sounds to Me like You would be better off without either of those people.
You will find someone that will love You for You, and not what they can get from You. Leave them behind and don’t look back. Your mum is the best friend You could have now.
Good Luck
Regards Pa69oldfart.
NO dont let them do that. You will need your baby bonus to raise the child. They do not have the right to take the baby bonus – it is to help you raise the child not to further the childs father and grandmother.
Your mums got the right idea, let the grown ups fight this one out.
In the States you can get an order for her to stop bothering you at all if you feel threatened. It sounds like you are going to be having a long life to have her and her loser family in yours.
Honestly, I’d move far away rather than go through life with what you are going to have to deal with. Really, see if that’s an option for your family.