My ex wants to move 1000km’s away and wants to take our son. He’s in the process of taking me to court to have this granted. He is accusing me of being a bad mother, being an alcoholic etc, and getting an ex friend of mine that I used to live with to stand behind him. Admittedly I was only 17 when I had my son and found it hard to bring him up by myself when he left but I have never consumed alcohol in front of my son nor has alcohol affected my life (ie, I’ve held down a stable job for the past 4 years). My life was a bit unstable, (not alcohol related, just a young mum trying to support her son alone) but over the past 18 months I have picked myself up and now rent a nice 2 bedroom unit with my partner, we earn a good income combined and have never been in trouble with the law, taken drugs or anything of that manner. I am so scared of losing my son I don’t know what to do. I have spoken to solicitors but I don’t know if I can trust them with the advice they’re giving me. I so far understand have the following in my favour: 1) My son was born here and all of his friends and family are here. 2) My ex seems to think he can go get a job at maccas and that will be enough to get a home loan. 3) I’ve taken my son off him before for dealing drugs. Does anyone know what he would have to do to succeed in taking him off me? Does anyone know if the court will take into consideration him slandering me? What should my solicitor be doing? I have a lot of friends who could write a lot of negative things about him, is it necessary? In my defence if I was such a bad mum my ex would have taken him off me a long time ago. I love my son more than anything and if he is allowed to go it will break my heart. Any advice would be fantastic. Thanks
thanks so much I feel better already. I might add, I can’t prove the drugs.. I found out about them and then took my son off him and went to mediation but the papers I have from then don’t seem to mention it 
After he promised not to sell anymore I gave in to him and let him see him for 50% of the week.. its been like that for the past 18 months or so
Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
The fact that you’ve been raising him without your ex works in your favor, not his. If he really suspected abuse/ neglect (because of you drinking or whatnot) he should have gone to the police to press charges. It sounds like you’re not in the states, so I don’t know how much advice I can give you there, but I know American courts don’t like to take a child away from a stable environment without good cause. Is his drug dealing documented in some way (original custody arrangement, police record?) The courts aren’t likely to take the child away from its stable, non-drug using mother and give him to a known drug dealer. Sounds like he’s just trying to threaten you into giving up the child. Make him take you to court. Chances are he doesn’t have a case and the judge will see that.
He wouldnt be able to just take your son he hasn;t got a leg to stand on, your a great mum by the sound of things and your son is not in danger. He would rightly be granted access but it is highly unlikely that a judge would uproot your son from his home, family and friends and let him move in with his father when he has been with you his whole life, it doesnt make sense, i wouldnt worry. Good luck x
I think you have already done enough. Provide your son with a safe and nourishing home life and stay away from the parasites like your exes~~boyfriend or husband~men and women should learn that
the children come first last and always. Most of the gals like you go from one abusive and selfish partner to another~
Remember~you are the master of your destiny and don’t allow these creeps Access to your son or
you~
someday you may find a partner that will give you the support you need but until then be very careful who you let into your life
No~this guy can try to make trouble for you~but the burden of proof is on him and not you
Just be a decent a law abiding citizen and stay away from trash like what you have in the past
Good luck mother
He can try. Its best you talk to your Lawyer about this though. Much depends on if its child’s best interest to move and how real the accusations against you are. If he was allowed to move he will likely be responsible for costs of visits. Here are some sites where you might find some more wisdom. All are forum sites