i have a baby to a man who doesnt want her, never met her.
His family has no idea she even exists.
I contemplated getting Child Support (but as i am on benifit i really had no choice, but to tell them) he has completely ignored them and now i have had to get a solicitor (which he is also ignoring).
I believe his family has a right to know about her and my daughter has a right to know them. but would it be wrong of me to tell them (they have never met me). its clear he wont tell them. should i wait till after the court stuff is over? im afraid of having conflict with them or them hating me and not wanting to see her cuz of that.
please give me some honest advice as what to do? (my daughter is already 5mnths old). This is about her and her only.
Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
I really hope his family is mature enough to understand that men support their children. Even if my son wanted nothing to do with a child he had (I would actually kick his a** for this) I would want to know my Grandchild. Do not wait until the court issue is over. Family ties are important and the legal stuff doesn’t need to be talked about. If they mention it first, explain your financial situation. Kudos to you for putting your daughter first and worrying about family she has on the other side even while her father is being immature and irresponsible. He might change and do better with his family pushing him. Good luck to you and your daughter!
If I was the family I would want to know.
There are a few things to consider though
1. If he’s denying it will they believe you, someone they don’t know and never met?
2. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree usually — there is a chance they are just like him — would you really want to be bothered in this case? Also — they might not even care…
you can go on maury povich…j/k.. depending on how ghetto his family is you should try to contact his family maybe they can help you influence your babys father into helping you with your daughter just be a real woman and be very respectful and let them know that you are trying to solve this problem before it has to go to court if not when it goes to court it might just help your case.
thats what you call a dead-beat dad . & yes put his ass on child support
i think his family has all the right too know about your child even if he does not want to get to know her maybe his family would but also you said you dont know his family which could put you in hot water because at any poit he coulkd deny her and get his family too believe it too . but when i was growing up i would have loved knowing the other side of my family so for her sake i would take the chance . (:
i really think you should wait and then tell them cause like you said that’s only going to bring more drama. Good Luck! Hope I helped.
FORGET ABOUT ALL THAT OTHER THE FACT REMAINS THAT SHE’S HIS DAUGHTER WEATHER THEY WANNA SEE HER OR NOT HE PLAYED A PART IN BRINGING HER INTO THE WORLD AND HE NEEDS TO KNOW HE CAN’T JUST WALK AWAY U CAN TELL THEM AS LONG AS IT AIN’T 4 VENGEFUL REASONS AS DAT DON’T HELP NO ONE ..HE MAY IGNORE THEM BUT THEY WILL CATCH UP WITH HIM AND DON’T BLAME URSELF AS HE’S MAKING THINGS WORST 4 HIMSELF HE SHUD SUPPORT HIS CHILD REGARDLESS OF C.S.A IT’S HIS DUTY WEATHER HE LIKES IT OR NOT