I recently helped my best friend to buy her first home. Not financially. I did the settlement/conveyancing for her for "mates rates" (I’m a settlement agent). I chased up her finance with her broker (which was running late), made sure her finance approval date was extended, so seller didnt terminate the contract. I personally delivered documents, explained everything, held her hand all the way through the complicated legal process.. went way above and beyond the call of duty. Even on my own birthday when I was on leave from work, I still ran around helping her (which really bothered my husband, because he took the day off to spend my birthday with me). When it settled, I sent her a text message (cause she cant take personal calls at work) to say "Congratulations, settlement effected, it’s all yours!". And then silence from her. No text message to say thank you, no call, nothing. Twice I tried to visit her in the week after settlement, and she wasnt home, and my phone calls to her mobile when unanswered. 4 weeks later she sends me a text "havent seen you for ages, will come over Monday". But she didnt turn up, and I havent seen her since. That was 2 months ago. Still silence form her.
My feelings a very hurt, and I admit I’ve taken a step back, but who wouldnt? I want to extend the olive branch, but my feelings are hurt and I want her to come see me, and say thank you for helping her, invite me over to see her new home. Is that too much to ask?
Are you thinking about selling your home yourself? then
You’ve already extended an olive branch…and then some. Unfortunately, your friend is a FLAKE. She is probably a very nice person, and does not mean to be a turd, but, sometimes people are like that.
Mourn and move on. Sorry you had this happen. Happens to the best of us.
no she owes you way more than a little invite to her new home.
try not to call her or stay in contact and just wait it out til she tries to call you. when she does, explain what she did wrong and that she owes you way more.
just be patient
good luck to you
don’t judge, wait and see what’s gonna happen maybe she’s got a problem or something, and talk to her and explain what did you go through for her and what do you expect, don’t hide your feelings.
She’s probably dead. Sorry.
Never too much to ask, as a simple ‘Thank you’. The Friendship Door swings both ways, and I’d feel hurt too.
Sorry you’re going through this. Best wishes to you.
hey i no how you feel i have been best friends with my friend since i was born 13 years and we got into a fight like a month ago over a guy its so stupid but we got over it but when we were in our fight i tried to say sorry and call and text and all that but never answered but i realized just back off and one day she finally said sorry so just back off and one day she will answer you to invite you over or even talk to you but if that does not work one day call her and just talk to her bout it hope i kinda helped bye
Will you have to also be open minded something may be happening in her life or she could be busy , it could be a lot of things. Honestly you should just show up at her house imo if your a 23 year friend ship shouldn’t matter you just dropping by.
Sounds like you were taken for a ride. Sorry to say that, but she used you in the worst way. Life has a bad way of twisting. Send he a letter with an itemized bill for all services rendered. It will serve to show her how bad she treated you. I was burned that way once. I will offer moral support and that’s it anymore.
You’ve known her for 23 years….you should know why she reacted this way, no? You should know her very well! Try to be in her shoes and find a solution, why has she been so quiet, so distant, so unresponsive? Maybe you’ve done a little too much for her, and she felt useless. People like to acomplish things on their own sometimes, even with a little help. but i think fundamentally we all like to achieve a little bit of something on our own.
What you gotta do is, if you’re so concerned, evn if you’re hurt like this, i think you should go to her, and talk. Dont wait for her to come to you, maybe she’s running? I dont know, but seeing as you have done so much, i think you should do at least this. Go see what’s up.
Wow, so sorry to hear about that. I’m sure it must be very hard because of such a long friendship and all the stuff you did for her and her fiance. Goodness…
The way she’s acting is not cool. But then again, you know her better than most of us here at yahoo answer so do you think this may be out of character for her? if so, then maybe something bad came up.
But then again, it has been two months. This is the time to call her confront her and see if she wants to grab a cup of coffee or something because it clearly bothers you and you are entitled to know what the hell is going on. Hopefully she wont stand you up again so for sure take advantage of the opportunity and ask her what happened to her the last two months cuz clearly she disappeared off the face of the earth. After all, if you decide to bring up the fact that you helped her with buying a home and all that, don’t feel guilty because you did a lot for her and it just isn’t fair for you. Suddenly no calls, or not even a text saying thank you? Has she even said thank you or anything like that?
I just hope something came up but nothing terrible. There is no reason why she should be acting this way…
Give her a call. LEave a message and if she doesn’t respond, then you should just let it go. You’ve done all you could and now it’s her turn to make the next step.
Good luck with everyone. If possible, id like to know if you patched things up so drop me an email. Good luck again.
Is it possible that in her text,she meant to say Will U come over? Everyone is busy when moving, but everyone has a few minutes to be civil to someone who did what you did. A 23 yr. friendship should not end. Call or email her and tell her you miss her and ask if you have offended her in some way. Maybe there was a misunderstanding that you are not aware of. If no response within 1 wk, I would send another email and explain that you are hurt and ask if your friendship is over. If still no response, let her know that you think she is very rude and ungrateful. Hope it works out.
friends can be affected by another person who happen to be controlling
if u r good friend= no step back
go to her over and over, no ego among good friends, she might be in troubles,
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